I'm happy for Halle Berry, but with the increasing number of women in Hollywood getting pregnant outside of wedlock, what message are we sending to our young girls today? I guess I'm a bit old fashioned, and I grew up knowing that my parents would be completely embarrassed and basically disown me if I had gotten pregnant before I married. Has this belief gone to the wayside? As a mother of a little girl, I want her to be married before she gets pregnant some day, but that's how I grew up!|||The only difference might be in that its now being reported more. There have always been women in Hollywood who鈥檝e had out-of-wedlock babies (I鈥檓 refraining from using the word "illegitimate") and the only real difference was that it was kept secret. Now the press is much more into prying into private lives and reporting it as our appetite for sleaze and trash becomes insatiable. If I were a parent I think I鈥檇 be more concerned about what type of role models people such as Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Britney Spears and some of the others along with the sainted Angelina Jolie are. At least Jolie is doing some good which is more than you can say about the others I mentioned and she is very open about her relationship with Brad Pitt. And what kind of role model is he for young boys? Hilton and Lohan (and a fourth one whose name I can鈥檛 recall) are no-talent bimbos in my book - and God knows I鈥檓 not what you would call a prude by any stretch of the imagination - who are better suited for acting in porn films than legitimate movies or on tv for that matter. If I had a daughter who looked up to any of that bunch, I鈥檇 be taking her to a psychiatrist so she could get her head straight. Drug busts, sex videos, explicit photos showing no underwear and on and on and on ad infinitum. What kind of talent is that? And what is the message being sent to young kids? Its ok to do drugs other than just smoking a little wacky tobaccy, its ok to videotape your sexual activities and hey, put it up on the internet for everyone to see!! But, you can鈥檛 just pick on this bunch. What is the music of today from rappers teaching our children? Don鈥檛 even want to go there. So ultimately, its up to the parents to do the best job they can in raising their children and teach them what is accepted in today鈥檚 society and what isn鈥檛 and the repercussions of really screwing up and to be there to answer their questions and give them the proper guidance. Really,that鈥檚 about all you can do because they鈥檙e going to be exposed to these people and this garbage regardless. I know someone is going to make a comment about my generation being the one that made all this so open - not quite true - we opened the doors, but someone else knocked them off their hinges and let the sleaze out where everyone could see it. We aren鈥檛 blameless, but the next generation did more than we did.
I suppose I should add some Widgets on here, but I refuse to put up anything that has to do with Paris and that bunch!!|||If your parents would have disowned you for getting pregnant it suggests they cared more about the embarrassment they might face in the community than they cared about you. That doesn't speak well of your parents. That's the same attitude that causes a lot of parents to kick out their gay, lesbian, or transgender children.
Also, movies are fiction. If a child is using a movie as a framework to model their life after, it would imply that they didn't have much actual parenting, which I would view as a more significant problem than fictional characters making bad choices.|||I believe there is no reason why a woman has to be married before she gets pregnant and has a child. Halle Berry getting pregnant had nothing to do with Hollywood. Why should a celebrity put their lives on hold because someone else's morals gets in the way.
It's up to you to raise your daughter if you don't want her to get pregnant before marriage then you should teach her that while she is still a child. You should also teach your children that just because a person is a celebrity, does not mean they are above anyone else in the world. They are just people who happen to famous.|||Maybe Hollywood is "teaching" young girls that being able to provide for a child, and being in a committed, loving relationship is more important than signing your name at the dotted line of a marriage contract. Marriage doesn't prove you're a good mother, love and common sense does.
But honeslty, Hollywood is blamed for so much. Maybe parents should start raising their kids instead of shelling out blame when their kids don't turn out "perfect".|||Well, it's up to YOU to bring up your daughter, isn't it? If you want to instill your values in your child, then do so.
Hollywood is concerned solely with making money by providing entertainment. They're not concerned about being a moral compass for society, because that is clearly not their job.
If you don't want your daughter to be exposed to celebritards and their supremely base lives, then take steps to shield her from that. You have the power to limit television usage in your home. Likewise, do what my parents did -- raise your children to be independent thinkers, and show them how to resist having the lemming mentality of "monkey see, monkey do." Tell them there's no need to emulate others, particularly the trashy celebrities you're appalled by. It was wonderful to go to school and be able to resist peer pressure to act and think like everyone else.|||No, your values are intact. And honored by more than just a few.
The values you hold (vis-a-vis morality and traditional values) are still held by the majority of people.
The problem is that the vocal minority try to obstruct the basic goodness and decency that the majority hold, and try to justify their minority views under the aegis of "inclusiveness" (whatever that term may mean, or whatever they may try and justify it to mean.)
Your instincts are not wrong. Traditional morality is still valued in our society. And don't let anyone try to tell you differently!|||Hmmmm.
I believe HollyWood.
Is trying to make our little girls.
More sexual and get them to be more open.
I'm old fashioned as well, pregnancy as a teen is still BIG.
I agree with you. In a perfect world a woman should wait but oh well.
If you don't like HollyWood's influence then shelter your daughter from it.|||Omg that's nothing...have you ever watched Secret Life of an American Teenager? Ugh that show disgusts me. I don't know one teenager that acts like those kids...come to think of it...idk too many adults that talk about and have sex that much. I refuse to let my 15 year old sister watch it. It's absolutely disgusting
I don't really agree with the thought of having to be married to have a child...but I totally disagree with the way they glamorize teen pregnancy and teen sex...it's like they encourage it.|||Hollywood is showing young teenage girls that being a slutt like Miley Cyrus, and all the Disney hos is fine and that getting prego at a young age is perfectly normal.... WHERE'S THE OLD HOLLYWOOD =(|||Marriage is for squares you can live happily with a bf/gf without getting married but I think Hollywood's message is GIVE US MONEY!!! I dont think it gives a **** about the other stuff.|||they are telling them to watch movies, paranoid assfucks like you ruin modern culture|||How about the OTHER side of the equation:
It takes TWO to tango.
Why aren't we making some of these MEN be more responsible as well?|||To Brittany. I hope they're sending a message that it'll all catch up to you sooner or later.
Though that message is there, with Paris Hilton and Lindsey Lohan and Nicole Richie, the kids won't hear or see that message.
What they'll see and hear is that you can go to rehab, come out all bettre, go make a gazillin dollars and repeat the cycle, like washing your hair.
You can drag your kids through it all...
ahh through it all, now there's something to sing about !!
I've had many tears and sorrows
I've had questions for tomorrow
There've been times I didn't know right from wrong
But in every situation
God gave blessed consolation
That my trials only come to make me strong
I've been a lot of places, And
I've seen so many faces
But there've been times I've felt so all alone
But in that lonely hour
In that precious, lonely hour
Jesus let me know I was His own
Through it all
Through it all
I've learned to trust in Jesus
I've learned to trust in God
Through it all
Through it all
I've learned to depend upon His Word
So I thank God for the mountains
And I thank Him for the valleys
I thank Him for the storms He's brought me through
Cause if I never had a problem
I wouldn't know that He could solve them
I wouldn't know what faith in His Word could do
Through it all
Through it all
I've learned to trust in Jesus
I've learned to trust in God
Through it all
Through it all
I've learned to depend upon His Word
Yes, I've learned to depend upon His Word
I've learned to depend upon His Word|||I was raised with quite conservative values, those being of my mother鈥檚. I was raised in a consertive Jewish home and I also went to private Jewish Day school. It was taught, and it still is in this sect of Judiasm, that first, do not interdate or intermarry, and of course it is looked very down upon if you get pregnant before being married. I know if that ever happened to me before I was married my mom would be mortified. A thought just came to my head. Let鈥檚 just say I did get pregnant (before I got married) and there was not planning involved, it was a complete accident, in my opinion that shouldn鈥檛 make my mom stop loving me or view me any differently. Also she shouldn鈥檛 care what others people think (my mom is the opposite here, she so much does care what others think and their view points). So in that sense I feel torn. But I do believe that all of the media, celebrities having babies without a spouse, and the many ways this can be done, is showing a mixed message to children who are brought up and taught to get pregnant only after they are married. I hate having children receive mixed messages, seeing as a child I received mixed messages all the time (my parents got divorced when I was in 4th grade, enough said).
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http://www. religion-online .org/ showarticle .asp?title=3189
http://www. parentingrc.org .au/vp/ index .php|||Why do you think Hollywood has the power to shape the world view of you or your little girl? Because you GIVE it to them!
Why do you give them that strong power over your psyche? Introduce to your child more than one form of media, more than simply the television... and let them choose for themselves how they want to be, from all the different choices of books, music, media, web sites, magazines, radio stations, t.v. channels, fashions, religions, world views, and life styles.... Give your kids a variety of books to read and they'll gravitate to certain genres, genres which compliment their inner essence at the time to further their own personal evolution.
The problem is Americans watch an average of 7 hours TV per day! Of course the Hollywood, hegemonic elite with their own immoral world view is going to infiltrate through out your child's mind and design her very way of being, if you let your kid watch only crappy television! It's all the same. Try reading or seeing theatre more, or playing out side.... expose her to more ways of being than one.
But also, if she desires to engage in sexual relations before she marries (and chances are she will), you can't do anything about that and indeed, have no right to, either! Your children belong to themselves and it is up to you to guide them to the right choices in life, not force them like a dictator or hold back your love because they made a mistake. If she got pregnant before marriage, would you disown her and your grandchild?
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